Introduction
I’ve written on this blog before about the plight of the desperate man. Increasingly, your average man has lost his sense of identity, his sense of connection with people, his community, and the greater world. Not only that, but his prospects in life are diminishing at a rapid pace; his labor does nothing to reward him, instead, his job exploits him while gaslighting him into believing that his personal and work-related failures are his own doing, not from the powers above. His fellow men (and women) ignore him and don’t see him as an equal. Rather than sympathizing with Sisyphus who is burdened to carry his stone forever, his neighbors believe that he simply “didn’t work hard enough” or that he must be carrying that boulder which towers over his body “for a good reason.”
“He wouldn’t be in that situation if he didn’t deserve it. He did it to himself!”
A popular saying among some in the online blackpill/incel space is “men are not human beings, men are human doings.” This statement, unpopular and controversial as it may be, brings to the surface what most men think of themselves deep down when asked about their existence. Some men, ironically, take pride in this fact because they alone want to be the “provider” of the family, the one that everyone should be dependant upon. If not for their family, then it is their workplace which could not exist or function properly without them.
However the desperate man cannot take pride in anything because he is without anything to take pride or joy in. He is without a fulfilling career, relationships, socialization, status, validation, etc. As I’ve written about before, this man resorts to substitutes to meet these basic needs because he is starved for any type of recognition that he is alive. The desperate male longs so much for a loving companion to greet him with a warm smile that he will resort to a virtualized “emotional prostitute” in the form of an animated girlfriend just to have this desire met. He is not happy or satisfied with this life, but for him, it is better than existing without any recognition at all.
This is the plight of the desperate male. Reduced to an object of ridicule, he is not seen as a person with lived experiences, desires, or dreams - but as a failed cog in the machine that we call our society. He is not working or functioning properly, thus he is of “no use” to the machine in question, so he becomes easily disposable. Every other cog has been able to fit neatly within the machine and expand its utility, meanwhile the malfunctioning cogs are seen as a “negative” for interfering in the machine’s seemingly never-ending processes.
These statements and images of masculinity of what men should be and what men ought to be doing, don’t address any real concern the desperate male has. Likewise, approaching the whole of this man’s life as being an existence meant not for his own sake - but for the sake of capital, for people who do not share any love for him, and for people who will otherwise forget about him the moment he passes - does nothing to solve the crisis of meaning he faces when the very world is against him. It is through these constant rejections from his family, his community, and ultimately, the world around him - that lead this lost soul into the comforts of the tribe.
As I mentioned before, the problem we are seeing is that not only are desperate men becoming increasingly more common due to external circumstances around the world, but these men in particular are being led astray and taking advantage of by all sorts of false platitudes, narratives, and ideologies that are woven meticulously together by cunning wolves in sheep’s clothing. Some of these thought-leaders will try to disguise themselves as being “one of them,” a voice speaking on behalf of the desperate man. A more common tactic for these “influencers” is to take the form of a more successful man with more status and power who just so happens to have some thoughts and concerns for the plight of the average man.
However, the easiest way for these men to find some solace is not through another person, but through a collective of people who share their experiences, thoughts, and beliefs. Group identity is the unifier and has been a unifier for men for a long time; where once religion, nationality, or traits such as language or culture was the foundation for a sense of community - hobbies and interests such as video games, politics, comic books, and Japanese manga took their place. Fandom is a substitution for belonging in as much as IRC chat rooms, Internet message boards, and instant messaging services such as Discord and Telegram act as a substitution for companionship and friendship.
However, with popular past-times such as film and video games no longer being considered enjoyable, or even outright hostile to its target demographic, the desperate male - new Spaces have emerged that fill the void of loneliness and shared passion. These Spaces can be divided into three categories: men with atypical or controversial political beliefs, men who are vulnerable and alone, and men who are romantically and sexually frustrated. Colloquially speaking, these Spaces could properly be categorized as the Alt-Right or White Nationalist community, the Blackpill community, and the Incel community. Each community is deserving of its own article, as there is a very long history with these groups spanning over a decade if you look beyond the headlines. What I want to talk about is the blurring of the boundaries between these communities, where one cannot easily notice the difference between an “incel” and someone who is a self-proclaimed “white identitarian.”
How did I get here?
Before I dive deeper into these communities, I think it’s important I make it very clear that I have no ill-will towards anyone in these groups. I have been a part of these communities over the years and have disavowed many of the beliefs and narratives that were presented after an extended stay. The adage: “Misery loves company” plays a very vital role here as these men are lost and without guidance, finding what seems to be some sort of greater purpose in these communities; whether that be through active participation, engagement, or just talking to someone like-minded within the group. Needless to say, I don’t blame these men for finding their way here, I put all blame on a society that has forgotten about them - punishing them by dropping them in a barren wasteland of a job market with no healthcare or resources - with no prospects for ever having a family, let alone a loving companion. Once-thriving cities and places of innovation have been shattered. Beauty and culture rapidly deteriorate, with ugliness and hedonism taking its place. Whatever semblance of good that was left behind has been eroded and replaced with degeneracy and violence, leaving everyone to feel scared and intimidated to live out their lives - forced to seclude themselves to the security of the Internet where they can vent out their frustration with a group that feels the same way they do.
All this to say that it is perfectly understandable the attraction or allure one can have to these groups. For one to say that they “could never see themselves” being a part of these groups or that they just “don’t understand” how men could find themselves belonging to such a subculture just goes to show the lack of empathy and regard people have for men and their lives in general. Although I have long since rejected many of the beliefs I have previously held that would have me as being “Alt-Right” or an “incel”, I still have hope and my best wishes for these men knowing that deep down they have a genuine heart that yearns for communion. My leaving was not out of any hatred for any person or figure within these groups, but rather a realization that to stay would mean that I would be bound within a community not built on fostering fellowship, but a community held by a thread through bigotry, division, and exclusion.
So what led me to these Online Spaces in the first place? Although I’ve written about loneliness and meaning before, I haven’t taken considerable time to write about my own struggles with loneliness and depression. It was my intolerable loneliness and the lack of being able to express my political beliefs with anyone “in real life” that led me to these spaces.
As a child in middle and high school, being an outcast due to my poor socialization skills and unusual pastimes, I borrowed books from the library related to conspiracy theories on Satanic cults and the Illuminati, niche topics that captured my interest. I’d find myself on blogs and random websites, watching fuzzy 360p resolution YouTube videos on hidden symbolism in films and videos exposing the truth on 9/11. Needless to say, for a young preteen who is supposed to be outside with friends, learning to socialize and experiencing special moments with the opposite sex, I was doing the exact opposite by shutting myself in my bedroom absorbing as much as I could on whatever topic I could discover. The Internet and the local library were an endless ocean of information that flooded me to new truths and concepts that I had never before heard of, concepts that felt unique as I alone discovered them (rather than receiving this wisdom from my parents or teachers), and I was taken in hook, line, and sinker.
This opposition to the consensus, my appetite for the contrarian perspective in search of both the true and the new filled nearly every aspect of my life as a teenager. This part of my identity, for instance, found itself not just in political awakenings - but in leisurely activities such as music and art. I was not content to listen to My Chemical Romance, Pierce the Veil, or any corporate, sanitized band that was branded as “emo” by the mainstream. I researched and learned what the emo genre was and where it came from to get a sense of its origin and true sound. What I knew to be emo were bands such as Sunny Day Real Estate, Mineral, and American Football, the “fathers” of the genre, as well as revivalists from the late 2000’s and early 2010’s such as Algernon Cadwallader, Grown Ups, and Midwest Pen Pals. I never met one person who heard of genres such as speedcore, math rock, or folktronica. And because I was an unsocialized outcast, the chances of me ever being able to share my music with anyone else were incredibly slim to none.
I could continue discussing how my personality, appearance, childhood, and other elements of my life shaped me to where I am today - but I’ll save that for another time. The reason I bring up my own past is because I think it’s important to talk about the type of people who are attracted to these Online Spaces. Why was I a perfect candidate in the first place? As I just outlined - a conspiracy theory-oriented mindset at a very young age, coupled with a lack of intimate relationships and a poor sense of self-worth, complemented with physical and emotional abuse from various father figures - led me to various places where I could vent my frustrations while also being in the company of older male figures who took the role of being a leader, guiding a vulnerable adolescent with direction.
If we’re talking about the incel community or the blackpill community, we’re not seeing a group of “Chads” or successful men with status to their name. Quite the opposite. I’ve already mentioned how it is the desperate man that will take refuge in these spaces. Outside of hopelessness and isolation, another quality of these men to consider is behavior. While this is just speculation on my part, I believe it’s possible that many, if not all of these desperate men in these communities suffer from some sort of mental illness or trauma. While not a clinical diagnosis, failure to launch syndrome is defined as:
“an inability to leave home and support oneself, regardless of the underlying cause. Young adults struggling with failure to launch (or failure to thrive) may appear to be “stuck” or not maturing in an age appropriate way.”
It should be no surprise then that there is an overlap or crossover between these three categories. Although the White Nationalist, Incel, and Blackpill communities seem different on the surface - each filled with people with seemingly different motivations for joining, the reality is that they are more alike than different. In essence, what these three categories offer the desperate man is an opportunity to fight back or take action against the “other.” What that “other” is is dependent upon the narrative or the consensus of the group. For the Incel community that “other” is women, more specifically - superficial, attractive, haughty women. These women may also be feminists or at least inclined to believe many ideas that became mainstream after the third wave of feminism.
Generally, an antagonism against the “other” isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In Christianity, the “other” to be avoided is sin. Hedonism, for instance, is a vice destructive to the soul where one only pursues that which is desirable to the flesh. These carnal, selfish appetites lead to other sins such as gluttony or lust. Where once a person had only a devotion to the spiritual good, that same person can then turn around and try to satisfy their base, human wants through prostitution, excessive eating, gossip, alcoholism, or other forms of sexual degeneracy.
However in these cases, the “other” is not a spiritual concept, ideology, or philosophy. The “other” in most instances is another group; feminist women, successful men, and ethnic minorities. The problem is not that these desperate men are necessarily wrong in their convictions or even their ideas. The issue at hand is that these men are being misled and having their anger directed at the wrong target.
Because the male loneliness crisis, the incel problem, and the blackpill are all fairly new phenomena, it’s fair to say that there is no philosophical, intellectual, or theological work related to these problems and how to address them. Thus, many individuals have taken it upon themselves to identify who or what the culprit is. In many cases, their assessments have some elements of truth to them. However, taken to an extreme, this “othering” of the culprit leads to a type of pathologizing that will not only hurt innocent people, but men themselves in the long run.
The Tribal Mindset
Video sharing platforms such as YouTube are great places for communicating ideas and finding like-minded individuals. People with unique insights can cross paths, share their knowledge and wisdom, and foster a collective of people who make content together. Better Bachelor, whose audience consists of men in the MGTOW community, makes videos following the same narrative, that being the idea that modern women are undeserving of men’s attention and men’s value only goes up with age. This was best encapsulated in a video of his (at approximately the 27 minute mark) released back in September of 2024, where an unnamed commenter noted:
“All right, I’ve grown bored of hearing about Ukraine for an hour straight. I don’t care. I wanted to hear about women being stupid and laugh at them. The world sucks enough as it is, and sometimes the women content brightens up my day and gives me a comedic break from our fucked up, miserable world.”
Unbeknownst to Better Bachelor, his audience was not there to hear the news. After spending years rallying the troops in a fit of outrage and disgust towards women with the mantra of “women don’t know what they want,” “women are all used up,” and “women aren’t worth your time,” Bachelor found himself in a place where his audience only wanted to hear the same rallying cry repeated again and again. The consistent pathologization of women was no longer about addressing a men’s issue as Better Bachelor had thought he was doing. Rather, his content had become an outlet for unresolved bitterness, misery, and anger that had been inside these desperate men for a long time with no other way to let it out.
It should be noted that Better Bachelor is just a commentator. While he has some knowledge on stoicism and is a US veteran, he has not addressed the MGTOW phenomenon from an analytical, sociological perspective. Rather, Bachelor sees MGTOW as a call-to-action for men to leave women behind altogether. While for some men this might be a good idea, such as men who have suffered through divorce or who have tried to enter into a relationship multiple times (only to get left behind) - for others who don’t have that experience, Bachelor’s videos are only setting young men up to fail. The narrative within the Manosphere and the Incel space have primed young men, as well as teenage boys, that their chances with women are hopeless, the dating market is forever ruined, and that their best years are already behind them.
For a YouTuber to be able to become successful on the platform, they need to cultivate an audience. A creator may enter a specific niche that they’re already passionate about, they may collaborate with another creator, or they may join a trend that favors the algorithm. In Bachelor’s case, what puts bread on the table is his “othering” of the Jezebel-woman, a she-vampire who sucks man of his life, money, and time. If it weren’t for this “othering,” his audience would have to tune in to a different channel or personality to receive that sweet taste of confirmation bias.
Upon leaving the Manosphere and MGTOW community where “SMV (Sexual Market Value),” “Redpill,” and “Game,” are common words associated with the in-group, we turn back to the Incel community. For the incel, it’s not just the othering of women that takes place, but the othering of men as well. “Chad” is the young man deserving of being othered in this community, for having the benefits of social status, good looks, and being able to easily attract women. If one is a true or “pure” incel, then their hatred or disdain for the “normie” is unmatched. The “normie,” although not on the same level as a Chad, still has access to sex, a moderate income, and some level of association with other normies.
The Incel lacks both what the normie and what the Chad has. While it may seem obvious that a man of high status should be able to have whatever woman he pleases, the question becomes more difficult with the normie, especially if this person is average in looks or ugly. Thus, resentment or retaliation against the normie can manifest - growing more intense upon knowing just how average they really are. By comparison, the outcast, who is deprived of socialization with the normie, has a lot of time to himself since he has no one (no friends, no girlfriend, no normies) by his side.
This image of a hopeless, lonely, virgin man has evolved and changed names over several decades. Where once this man was simply called a “nerd” or a “loser,” now there is a complete dictionary of new, derogatory words used to belittle him originating from the Internet. Whether he is called an “neckbeard,” “incel,” or “chud” the implied meaning is still the same. This is not someone who is welcome in greater society, this is someone to be mocked and ridiculed, someone to be left behind and forgotten.
Going back to my story as an outcast, recall that my interests were very unusual for my age. Again I ask, what normal middle schooler reads books about the history of Freemasons, watches videos on 9/11 theories, and browses 4Chan? Much like how I was able to find these topics out of my own curiosity and because of my own personal loneliness, many men today find themselves in movements and echo chambers, embracing ideologies with other outcasts just like them. One of these more radical ideologies that still has a presence within the blackpill and incel space is white nationalism.
In order to talk about white nationalist sentiments in these spaces, we need to talk about the antagonism that white men understandably felt throughout the late 2010’s. In a post-Occupy America, a division was made to disrupt a type of class-consciousness from forming against predatory lenders, corporatists, and bankers who exploited working Americans. To do this, the elites in power squashed any dissent against those who hoarded their wealth by weaving a narrative that racism and sexism were, in fact, not over, but had only evolved. By doing this, the average Obama-supporting Liberal as well as the Progressive Democrat with the status of being on the “right side of history” and being the more “empathetic, caring” side, turned their vitriol against the innocent; the white, working man.
You’re probably already familiar with many of the headlines and events over the course of the years that demonstrated this discrimination against white men. How corporations such as the Coca-Cola Company with the help of disgraced author Robin DiAngelo and Dr. Karyln Borsynko told employees to be “less white.” How caucasian historical figures such as Cleopatra or Hannibal were both portrayed by black actors. How the “It’s Okay To Be White” campaign of 2017, an effort to push back against anti-white rhetoric - was deemed a “hate symbol” by the Anti-Defamation League, the same Anti-Defamation League that promotes Zionism (a Jewish-supremacist ideology) and the genocide happening in Gaza. Not only was this type of bigotry against the white working class man allowed to happen… it was tolerated. Like a pressure valve trying to stop itself from bursting, eventually, with enough force applied - no amount of resistance can stop the inevitable from happening.
Following the election of Donald Trump, a backlash against both the liberal establishment and the “cuckservative” wing of the Republican party would form. The Alt-Right would be a voice for the disenfranchised white man who was hated by the Left and neglected and abused by the mainstream voices on the Right. The Alt-Right correctly pointed out the current establishment crusade against not just men white, but “whiteness” and “white culture” from elite colleges, places of employment, and government institutions. But with every subsequent attack on white men from ivory tower liberals and sheepish conservatives, the Alt-Right would fight back even harder. Values and ideas that both moderate conservatives and liberals held would be quickly disbanded in favor of rhetoric that was deemed “pro-white.” Colonialism of the Indigenous American was a good thing (a triumph of the white man), abolition of the black slave was seen as a tragedy, and Hitler would be seen as a sympathetic, misunderstood leader whose motivations were seen as “good for the German people.”
Ordinary white people who spend their days with their families, working or going to school, trying to live a seemingly normal life, are not going to have any thoughts of white genocide crop up in their mind. When an average white person’s primary focus is on their immediate family, their job, and their daily survival, they will have less concern and less time to think about white birth rates, racial IQ differences, and minority crime statistics. But for the white male on the fringes of society, the white male who comes home to Discord servers and websites such as The Daily Stormer, American Renaissance, or the The Right Stuff, he enters a space that enables him to pathologize the other. Where the white American plays the role of both the great conqueror and the victim, the faults lies not with systemic, oppressive elites or corporatists exploiting workers for low wages who rob them through taxation and unpaid overtime, but with migrants and other replaceable, ethnic workers who are in “competition” with other low-wage white Americans.
It is this same white nationalism that makes one ignore the plight and suffering of the black American, the Asian American, or the Indigenous American. Thus, the same black, Asian, or Indigenous American who identifies as an incel, rather than being in solidarity with white incels, is cast out by the white nationalists. From the white nationalist’s perspective, the minority incel is still causing harm to the one who is actually suffering the most. The white nationalist who spends enough time in these spaces will adopt the idea that their life wouldn’t be so bad had it not been for all these different racial groups occupying the same space as them. Arguments for state-sanctioned segregation, abortion of ethnic children, and other “pro-white” policies will not only be incentivised, but encouraged and tolerated through the use of humor and memes.
This type of tribalism didn’t come from nowhere. To quote PhD. E. Michael Jones of Culture Wars Magazine, “‘White boys’ are Protestants who don’t go to church anymore.” Suffering the fate of isolation from society and having to endure a life that feels meaningless, many of these incels turn to this radical ideology as a coping mechanism. Much like how my curiosity for conspiracy theories filled the void in my heart that loneliness had created, white nationalism for many of these desperate men fills the need for community by creating a sense of group identity, a common enemy to fight against, and a rallying cry greater than anything Better Bachelor could propose.
Eventually, enough time in an echo chamber away from the dreaded Chads and normies will lead one to a dark place once thought unimaginable to end up in. It is here where we arrive at the final destination that these spaces led us to all along. While some men may have thought of white nationalism as a plea for higher white birth rates, and some incels may have thought of their community as a type of brotherhood for hopeless men, the reality of the situation is much more ominous. The wide, open paths that were taken lead these desperate men to fatalism and nihilism, all while advocating eugenics through genetic determinism. Their lack of validation, coupled with being a fugitive from the wider society, on top of having nothing and no one to care for them, leads them to resent the world and everyone in it.
For those who already had preconceived or inherited biases against minority groups in particular, fascism and white superiority complexes are used as a skinsuit or cosplay to mask these men’s lack of anything tangible or noteworthy that would make their lives meaningful. It would be different if these men were just introverts or lonely men who felt betrayed by their government and society, but the white-nationalist-incel has fascism, hatred, and racism where love, compassion, and mercy for the other once were. To quote former President Lyndon B. Johnson:
“If you can convince the lowest white man he’s better than the best colored man, he won’t notice you’re picking his pocket. Hell, give him somebody to look down on, and he’ll empty his pockets for you.”
This deadly combination of a lack of self-awareness and sense of superiority is delusion at best and narcissism at worst. However, it shouldn’t surprise anyone that the so-called “leaders” of these spaces will oftentimes take issue with their own followers. Richard Spencer, talking about his years of influence in white nationalist circles says:
“My experience with the Alt-Right has been to a large degree an experience with manlet incels. And I don’t really think much good can come from these people who hate the world, are mad at everything, and so on. I think that if we’re going to create a movement that is ultimately going to triumph it’s going to be an alpha movement.” Spencer goes on to conclude:
“A lot of these manlet incels - they say it’s the end of the world but it’s just the end of them.”
The tragic irony is that many within the white nationalist and incel space will still cling to online influencers, grifters, and content creators, even as they insult them to their face and directly tell them that they don’t matter and do not care about them. Although Spencer is correct in a sense that the majority of the “Alt-Right” was made of desperate men, Spencer’s idea of what the movement was supposed to look like did not take into account the fragile state of white men (or men in general). Needless to say, the distraught man whose soul has been crushed cannot carry a sword into battle, and telling him that he needs to get angry or that he’s just not trying as hard as he could won’t be enough to make him fight even if his life depended on it.
Against Tribalism
The desperate man is lacking in many things that are vital to his survival and willingness to move forward in life. No more is this evident than in Tomi Lahren’s infamous rant that went viral against Gen-Z men, blaming their lack of desire to work and start a family on “laziness.” Lahren fails to realize that many of the expectations and dreams, even simple ones, that men were told were achievable in adulthood, are nigh impossible. I’ll try not to preach to the choir for too long, but if you’re reading this article, you’ve seen the rise in home prices, the rise of the cost of consumer goods and food,the shutting of stores and rise in unemployment (with LISEP’s true rate of unemployment currently hovering above 24% as of July 2025; the “TRU” accounts for those who are not just unemployed, but for those who are underemployed, those looking for work but can’t find work, workers earning poverty-wages, etc).
Today’s men enter a world where they are relentlessly beaten down and abused by a system that doesn’t care about what happens to them, a system that only sees people as a resource to have their labor and assets extracted from them. The system does not see man as one with desires, hopes, dreams, ambitions, or any form of agency or value by mere existence. If the man doesn’t contribute to the system, he is seen as a defunct part that needs to be thrown away.
I write all this in hopes that you come away understanding that the current fracture within these online spaces isn’t helpful to other men. Although the Alt-Right presented itself as a solution to white men who were underprivileged and attacked, it inevitably created as much division and animosity towards the ‘other’ as their enemy (the liberal elites) did. By having race as their primary identity rather than religion or nationality, the white incel views every problem such as wealth inequality, job and food insecurity, immigration, housing, and even dating through a narrow racial lens. The idea of having white Americans unite under race is a fool’s errand, as white Americans cannot answer what makes ‘white Americans’ unique or different, nor can they answer who or what a ‘white American’ even is. White nationalists in America conveniently forget their own history where the Irish were enslaved by the English settlers and considered “European trash” in anti-immigration propaganda. The American Republican Party of the 19th Century would continue this hatred of European migrants with anti-German, anti-Catholic rhetoric – prolonging the narrative of their Puritan ancestors whose Calvinist theology led them to believe that they were God’s chosen and everyone else was Amalech.
This tribalism along artificial social constructs such as color does nothing but divide the working poor, the underprivileged, the disenfranchised. They begin to bicker amongst each other about who has it worse, creating more categories of already-hurt men to divide each other even further. This purity spiraling leads others to conclude that there exist “fakers” or “posers” within a congregation of losers and have-nots. That because one man has some semblance of meaning or hope in his life, he must then be a “failed normie” or a “fakecel,” if you will. This is where the term “cope” is used to denigrate what little an incel has in life. The implication is that an incel or blackpiller cannot have an outlet for something positive in life. All things, be it religion, philosophy, or a passion such as music or literature, are just a coping mechanism for the incel’s miserable existence. According to this logic, an incel cannot have a genuine interest in their hobby or an authentic love for God - otherwise they wouldn’t be a blackpilled incel at all.
Before he became Pope John Paul II, Karol Józef Wojtyła developed a philosophy known now as the Personalistic Norm, a philosophy that teaches that “The person is a good for which the only proper and adequate attitude is love.” Through viewing all people (both in real life and online) through this philosophy, JPII reminds us that humans are created in the image of God (imago dei) and that people are not objects or subjects to be used for our own personal benefit or gain. Each person carries with them reason and experience, and therefore we should be considerate of how we treat other people and each other.
Racism, ethnic nationalism, as well any active or passive support of eugenics or fatalism not only violate the Personalistic Norm, but are violations of Catholic Doctrine and Church Teaching. On Respect for the Human Person, the Catechism states:
“Respect for the human person proceeds by way of respect for the principle that ‘everyone should look upon his neighbor (without any exception) as another self, above all bearing in mind his life and the means necessary for living it with dignity.’ No legislation could by itself do away with the fears, prejudices, and attitudes of pride and selfishness which obstruct the establishment of truly fraternal societies. Such behavior will cease only through the charity that finds in every man a ‘neighbor,’ a brother.” (CCC 1931)
On Equality and Differences Among Men, again, the Catechism says the following:
“Created in the image of one God and equally endowed with rational souls, all men have the same nature and the same origin. Redeem by the sacrifice of Christ, all are called to participate in the same divine beatitude: all therefore enjoy an equal dignity.” (CCC 1934)
For too long, people have let the tribalistic, primitive nature of politics dictate their actions, motivations, and beliefs. The blackpilled incel has no privilege, no special qualities or attributes that make him stand out among others. He is forgotten, left behind with other people that can’t quite understand him or help him navigate his life. I think the last thing this person needs is to be shipwrecked or cast out by others who are on the same boat as him.
It is much easier to tear others down then to lift others up, a pattern I’ve noticed within these circles. I’m guilty of it and am not setting myself up as an example of what to do or how to behave. But I think back to times where I have been loved in the past. I think about times where I could or should’ve been comforted, only to be greeted with shame, mockery, and gaslighting. I think of the people who felt what was in my heart and knew how to take care of me. And I think of the pain I feel knowing that they’re gone.
I can’t do much with what I have now. All I have is a voice that I hope can reach others. But what I can do is remind others that, regardless of what you believe, that we are all people at the end of the day. My race, my virginity, my looks won’t matter when I die, nor will they matter when I look back on my life and what I have done for myself and for other people. I won’t die with the pain of being “born wrong,” or “not looking attractive enough” on my mind. I want to live a life worth living despite all the suffering I’ve been dealt throughout my childhood and still endure to this very day. Genetic determinism be damned.
Whether you want to call all of this a cope or my faith in God a cope, that’s up to you. I’m not an apologist, and frankly, persuasion isn’t my strong-suit. That’s fine. But I’ll know I’ll have done at least something right if at least one person can come out of this with less hatred and bitterness towards other, and more openness and mercy towards the other. It’ll take time, patience and a lot of self-reflection, but it’s all worth it.
- Midwest